Men Aren’t Men, Women Aren’t Women

I recently came across the following poem:

You should ask me,
    Me, me, me
Because I know-
I used to live
    On the Eastern Shore.
Men aren’t men,
And women aren’t women,
And people aren’t people any more.

You will find this short stanza in a Science Fiction story entitled “The Dead Lady of Clown Town” by Cordwainer Smith. The basic theme behind the story is that animals, genetically altered to look and act as humans – are indeed human and that everyone is more than that…

It just reminded me, about one of the things that men who are growing breasts are doing. We are taking all of humanity towards another, greater ideal of freedom. That you and I, that all men, and all women, have the right to our bodies – to decide what we should look like and who we really are.

Society continues to learn that everyone of us has equal right regardless of our personal gender, but it is slow learning for so many of our neighbors around the globe.

As an adult, if growing breasts or making other changes is the right thing for you to do, then go for it. I think that such makes us more human and is helping us reach our greater potential. And this will ultimately be the best for all our future.

Still, we live in a world where part of our local communities and part of whole sections of the world – scorn differences and dictate a narrow vision of who we can be. But we are a part of tide of great change of possibility…

I say, that if you are growing breasts or want to, that you are not alone. Be brave, be careful and be yourself. Hurray for men with breasts!

Pros And Cons of Wearing A Bra

Is there any article of clothing that is more associated with being a woman than the bra? Kilts are the same as skirts. Togas and kimonas are somewhat like dresses. Shirts are like blouses. Men and women share many clothes that have different names, but look quite similar – except for the bra.

That is why I think that – for a man who is growing breasts – the moment when it makes sense to wear a bra is such a milestone. Whether it is a physical or emotional breakthrough or a psychological or symbolic moment – putting on a bra to support your new breasts, for the first time, is special. The little piece of clothing states, upon its wearing, that you are someone new.

Just as for young women, the first bra marks a coming of age, for a man enlarging his breast or other feminizing action, a bra can also mark that moment of true change…

For me, even after several years of wearing bras, I still get a “psychological boost” from them. Which is one of the pros of wearing a bra. Other pros include keeping me warmer in the winter – just another layer of cloth to keep away the cold air. In the summer, my bras do get damp from perspiration – which leads to a nice cooling effect, when a breeze hits the front of my body.

Of course, bras also support your breasts, which is important. And depending upon what you wear, a bra can actually de-emphasize your breasts – if your desire is to not let the general public know that you are a man with breasts.

On the con side of wearing a bra. Since my variation in gender is private, I generally wear clothes that obscure my breasts. There are some shirts that I cannot wear under those conditions because a bra will show through.

Additionally, the straps sometimes come loose or off my shoulders and need to be adjusted. And the straps sometimes bug my shoulders a little bit – comfort wise. And I do have to make tugging adjustments on the cups. But I suppose that any set of clothing needs adjustments from time to time…

I guess the only real con about wearing a bra is taking the time to put the bra on in the first place. Sometimes, I feel rushed when getting dressed and putting on a bra is one more step I have to take to get ready for work. And I do find it necessary to wear a bra at work or when I know I will be doing particular physical activities. Otherwise – my breasts will hurt, if they go unsupported.

In general, I love wearing a bra and I love the fact that I need to wear a bra. So what about you? How do you feel about wearing a bra? Leave a comment…

My opportunity to modify my gender – becoming a feman or more feminized male did not happen in a vacuum. Many men and women before me explored the various shades of gender that humans have and can have. They had operations and underwent hormone therapies to change their gender from male or female to male.

These transsexuals and transvestites and others had the courage to express their inner selves, despite what body they were born in, and despite what the general society of the moment said was right and wrong. It is right to be yourself and today we live in a world where it is much easier, in many more places, to be ourselves…

I want to express my appreciation for these gender pioneers who both created a safer social environment and pushed science to explore the possible ways to enhance and change our bodies. The knowledge that allowed me to experience male breast enlargement was due to those who came before us.

We, too, are gender pioneers – a heterosexual male with breasts is just one of the possible gender expressions and each of us is developing a unique expression. And this, I believe, makes our human society richer and better prepared for the future.

When I started growing breasts, I thought that it would preclude me from every being President…

But now I wonder, what with you, my peers, and other gender pioneers changing the boundaries of the possible, a day may come, not so long from now, that a man with breasts (or other gender variation) can be President…

I appreciate you all.